Time for a wedding and the soon-to-be-weds need a ring bearer, you have a small boy, perfect, suit him up and let the festivities begin. Weddings can be stressful on their own, but when you have to bring children with you, it becomes more of a job than a celebration. Especially if you are the lucky parent of the ring bearer.
The duties of the ring bearer are easy, however, telling your boy what he needs to do might be a little more time consuming. Also remember that such experiences can be very scary for little kids, and they can get even worse if you do not support them.
Kids have their own personalities and their own attitudes, rather, they are small adults and they should be treated as such. They will catch on if you try to sneak something by them. Try to rationalize with them as much as possible and try to find compromises; make them feel unique and as if they were in charge. Always expect the unexpected.
Pay special attention to your kids’ needs because very quickly fun can turn into tears, and also even quickly they can steal the show. If the newlyweds are alright with it, then let your kid just roll with it, but do not let it take forever; a little bit of spotlight will not hurt anyone, and they can easily lighten the mood of everyone, especially for the groom and bride.
The same way as you have someone who is responsible when there is a party, you should choose someone who will be responsible for the kids, and ask them to pay special attention to your little ring bearer. When choosing the designated grown-up, it is important to choose someone the kids feel comfortable and relaxed with, preferably someone who is a good entertainer.
Kids will be kids
It is stressful enough that you have to run around making sure everything is alright and to your kids’ liking, food and drinks can be problematic. Not everyone’s allergies can be taken into account, and perhaps it would be a better idea to pack your kids’ meal so that they will not have an upset tummy, nor will they throw a tantrum if something is not to their liking.
Picture time is difficult for everyone, not just for the kids, grown-ups are a hassle to begin with, but getting kids to stay still for more than a minute is impossible. It is a good idea to take the pictures of children first, so that they can go off and have fun, while mommy and daddy take care of their picture session. Just make sure that your kid has supervision all the time.
Remember to have fun!
The key to a successful ring bearer is to remember to rehearse everything and to make sure that he is having lots of fun. Smiling and encouraging will not only make this experience less frightful but it can also turn the evening into one of the best night in their young lives.
This post was written by Sophie, a freelance writer based in Sydney. Sophie is a fan of fashion and fashion photography. She’s always searching for new ideas and inspiration.